Librería Samer Atenea
Kálamo Books
Librería Elías (Asturias)
Librería Kolima (Madrid)
Librería Proteo (Málaga)
Your child is entering puberty. Your own childhood has started arriving with it. A sleepover request, a locked bathroom door, a changing body, or a question about relationships can produce a reaction that feels far larger than the moment. You may become controlling, distant, angry, watchful, or unable to speak, even when you know your child has done nothing wrong. The problem is not a lack of love. It is that present-day parenting has crossed a part of your past. A practical guide for the Overlap The Flashback Years names this stage the Overlap: the period when a child’s development touches the age, body changes, or circumstances connected with a parent’s childhood sexual abuse. The book helps you recognise Activation before it writes the household rule, separate current safeguarding from old alarm, and return to difficult conversations without asking your child to carry your history. Tools for the next real conversation The Overlap Map shows where developmental triggers may appear. The Signal Inventory helps you notice your earliest warning signs. The Interrupt gives you a brief sequence for delaying an activated decision. The Repair provides language for moments that went badly. The Two-Column Test helps you judge sleepovers, trips, parties, privacy, online contact, and first relationships using present evidence rather than fear alone. You will also find scripts for body-safety and puberty conversations, guidance on touch and privacy, support for fathers and co-parents, options for deciding what to tell a child about your history, and a careful first-response plan if a child discloses harm. This book is for readers who... This book is for adult survivors parenting or caring for a child between roughly eight and fourteen; parents whose child’s age or puberty has reactivated distress; families struggling with overprotection, withdrawal, anger, or difficult body conversations; fathers who rarely see their concerns addressed; and partners who need a shared plan that keeps the child out of the adult-support role. A steadier way through puberty This is not therapy, a memoir, or a demand to disclose. It is an adult-to-adult handbook for staying warm, careful, and present while your child grows through a stage that asks more of you than anyone warned you it would.
