Librería Samer Atenea
Kálamo Books
Librería Elías (Asturias)
Librería Kolima (Madrid)
Librería Proteo (Málaga)
It Is What It Is... Until It Isn’tA Memoir of Radical Acceptance, Recovery, and Becoming'It is what it is.' We say it when life backs us into a corner, a shrug, a surrender, a way of making peace with what we can’t control. But what if that phrase is only half the story?At thirty-two, waking from another blackout, separated from his husband and drinking just to keep the shakes off, the author finally saw his life with total clarity: he was an alcoholic, he was powerless over it, and if he didn’t get help immediately, he was going to die. That single moment of radical acceptance became the foundation for everything that followed, treatment, sobriety, a divorce, coming out as gay after nearly a decade with his husband, and the slow, unglamorous work of becoming someone he could trust again.It Is What It Is... Until It Isn’t is a raw, hard-won memoir about the space between acceptance and transformation, between surrendering to what’s true right now and refusing to believe it has to stay that way. Through ten deeply personal chapters, the author walks readers through the real mechanics of change: not the dramatic, all-at-once kind, but the daily, boring, promise-by-promise kind that actually sticks.Inside, you’ll explore:Radical acceptance, how to face your reality without denial, minimizing, or the stories you tell yourself to make it bearableThe difference between giving up and letting go, surrender as strength, not defeatThe reckoning, facing the wreckage of your past, the difference between guilt and shame, and what making amends really requiresIdentity after the armor comes off, rebuilding a sense of self once the addictions, roles, and defense mechanisms fall awayRebuilding trust in yourself, one small, kept promise at a timeRewriting inherited narratives, recognizing the scripts you didn’t choose and learning to author your own storyTaking action while terrified, moving forward without waiting for confidence or the perfect momentWho to hold close and who to release, building a circle of people who tell you the truth and support real changeLiving in the 'until', holding both acceptance and ambition, contentment and growth, at the same timePart sobriety memoir, part self-help field guide, It Is What It Is... Until It Isn’t speaks to anyone navigating addiction recovery, a major life transition, a coming-out journey, divorce, or simply the restless feeling that something has to change. Each chapter closes with reflection questions and practical exercises, making this as much a workbook for transformation as it is a story of survival.If you’ve ever felt stuck between accepting your life as it is and believing it could be different, this book is proof that you don’t have to choose. You can do both.
